I’ll give it to you if you tell me I’m looking tired after a whole night of partying…
… but when you say that to me when I’m feeling perfectly fine, we are going to have a problem.
You know the struggles of being a female: you always feel the need to look good. Even if you are going for a “oh, look at me, I woke up like this” look, it will still involve at least 3 different types of cosmetic products. A “natural look” doesn’t always come naturally, after all.
Sometimes, though, you just feel like you had enough. You see your clean and clear face in the mirror and think “Oh, I don’t look that bad. Maybe I’ll go without make-up today.” One should be able to feel beautiful without the aid of make-up, right?
Right! Except, if you’ve decided to do that, I can almost guarantee you that you will be hearing this: “Wow… you look tired!” Or even worse, “Are you okay? You look a bit ill today.”
Now, how the hell do you answer that?
“Err… I’m fine?”
The truth is, when someone says “You look tired” or “You look a bit ill”, they actually mean “I noticed that you’re not looking as nice and bright as you normally do. You must be tired, or ill, or something!”
The person saying it isn’t necessarily aware of this fact, though. They just see that you don’t look as polished as you used to – i.e. you look completely bare and natural – so, they conclude that you look tired or ill (why else would you look like this? Come on, who wants to go out looking like this! Pshh!).
There goes your excitement about “keeping it natural”…
The thing is, people go with “You look tired,” because ‘tired’ doesn’t sound as offensive. Otherwise, the alternatives would include:
“You look bad…”
“You look like you’ve been dragged through a hedge backwards…”
“What happened to you??”
“You look like shit.”
Even though the word ‘tired’ by itself does not sound offensive, it is pretty insulting when used inappropriately. Looking tired when you are tired is perfectly fine, don’t get me wrong. It is when you feel good about going natural and then getting told ‘you are tired’ that it becomes an insult.
“What do you mean I look tired? I can’t look good without make-up? I can’t go bare without looking tired? Do I always have to conceal my natural dark circles??”
No, dammit, I am NOT tired! What you tried to mean is that I look like I have no make-up on.
Learn the difference!