Things are seldom what they seem.

You’re scrolling through your Facebook news feed when you realise how much better everyone else seem to be doing. On Instagram, you come across dozens of amazing holiday photos… People’s updates on Twitter make you wish you had a different life…

Then, you wonder… is your life really shittier than theirs?

Probably not.

How much of their true life have you seen through Facebook, Instagram or Twitter? How much of their struggles are reflected in their updates? Can you tell how much pain they have been through by looking at their glorious pictures? Do you know, for sure, that their life is always as bright and colourful as their social media account makes it seem?…

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You meet up with a friend, who consistently seems to be doing bad, and feeling lost, not knowing what to do with their lives. You tell them: “Just get up, go out and do something with your life!” To you, they are just being lazy. With some effort, anyone can do better.

But, how do you know that they already aren’t putting in the effort? How well do you know what life is like for them? How much of their daily, internal struggles have you witnessed? What gives you the right to judge them the same way you judged those who seem to be doing better?…

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You read news of young people who – magically – seem to have gone from nothing to owning companies valued at billions $$$ in a short time. Their success stories are all over the media: how they started off with an idea, [… some brief coverage of how they worked towards it…], and then how they got millions in funding.

Then it makes you wonder, how the hell? Is it really that easy?

No wonder you feel like your life is shit after reading these!

But, no one seems to care about – or report on – the countless sleepless nights, gruelling efforts, numerous rejections, a huge amount of self-doubt, and lots of $$$ gone into making something out of what started off as ‘just an idea’…

We don’t get to see any of the behind the scenes. We don’t get to know about the real effort put into making things the way they are. All we see are the fruits of those efforts that somehow magically appear.

Instead of wondering “Why isn’t my fruit that juicy?!”, bear in mind that things are seldom what they seem. What you get to see is probably only one side of the coin.

The grass is always greener on the other side… but do you really know what it took to keep it green?…

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