Do you find yourself missing something in your past a bit too often? Do you feel stuck at your job? Do you often fantasize about living in a different place, under different circumstances? Do you feel like you are not getting the most out of your life?
If you do, then you are probably not living the right life.
If you are regretting a new move, or if you miss your past more than you are happy about your current situation – then maybe you are not doing the right thing for you. Your past shouldn’t feel better than your future. You shouldn’t be looking over your shoulder and reminiscing more often than looking ahead and feeling excited about what’s in front of you.
(unless you just came out of a bad relationship, lost a loved one, been through a traumatic event, or are depressed – in which case these probably won’t apply to you)
If you feel like running away, or if you feel stuck, more often than you feel like you belong and can prosper right where you are, then you are not in the right place. Maybe it’s time to evaluate why you keep staying in this job, in this situation, or in this place, and find out whether you would be better off doing something else, or being somewhere else.
If you feel down, suffocated, misunderstood, or generally not happy when you are with your significant other, then maybe you are not with the right person, for you. You shouldn’t have more downs than ups. Maintaining your relationship with your SO should not feel like “maintenance”. You shouldn’t have to spend so much time and effort just to end up feeling spent in the end. It should feel more like a rejuvenating experience than a tiring one. You should both learn and grow together, not point fingers at and make each other feel worse. It should be a nurturing, constructive relationship – not a destructive one.
When you step back and take a look at how you live your life: if you notice that you are dreaming about a different life more often than you are living your current one, then you are not living the right life for you. That’s where you should start to make a change, unless you want to keep doing this until you cannot change it anymore – that is, until you are on your deathbed, full of regrets and “what ifs”.
Take a step back, and have a look. If you find yourself thinking about doing things more often than actually doing them, stop right there. You will not live this life once again. You will not have this opportunity anymore. Whatever you want to do for your life, do it. Don’t be afraid of making mistakes – mistakes are how we learn and grow! Despite what others are saying, especially if you know you –yourself– will not regret it, then do it.
Regrets are worst things you can accumulate in your life. If you are not where you want to be, get up and move – you are not a tree.
You have the power to make the change – all you need is to want to make that change.