Do you want to feel alright no matter what happens? To feel unmoved in the face of extreme difficulty? Want to be perfectly fine no matter what is going on around you?
Then you must, first, learn to let go.
If you are done with getting hurt by the things people say, and the way they behave, let go of the importance you place on others’ actions. Let go of your expectations from them. Let go of thinking about what they should say and how they should behave. Let go of trying to make the world change. They won’t change. The best thing you can do is to change how you perceive things at your end – and suddenly you will see that it isn’t, at all, that bad.
If you want to always feel “happy”, let go of the need to pursue happiness. The more you pursue it, the more unhappy you will be. The truth is, you don’t need happiness to lead a great life. You just need to be perfectly okay with whatever your life throws at you. You don’t need to expect anything from it. You don’t need to push yourself to change it. You can just embrace it, and suddenly, everything will become just fine – just as it is supposed to be.
If you want to stop feeling worried and stressed whenever things aren’t going right, let go of the need to be in control. Life will go by, and things will happen, whether you feel like you are in control, or not. No matter how much “in control” you feel, in reality, you are not the one controlling life. Life just happens. You can either go with it and enjoy the ride; or try to resist it and suffer.
If you don’t want to feel sad, let go of your emotions. You know what life is like. People come and go; you win and lose. Life has ups as well as downs. Yes, it is extremely difficult to ignore the emotions you feel. But, if you can at least accept that this is part of life, and it happened because it had to, you will be able to get over it quicker. Just find a higher power, or a higher purpose, to believe in, or follow, during tough times – and it will all be okay.
If you are feeling wronged, let go of that feeling. If you are feeling misunderstood, let go of it. Feeling down, sad, bad? Let go. You don’t have to keep feeling these negative emotions. You are only feeling them because of your own expectations – consciously or not. You must have expected things to turn out a certain way. You must have thought people would behave in a certain manner. You must have hoped for some things to happen. And when they didn’t?… That is why you felt disappointed, or sad, or lonely, or wronged. You don’t have to. Just let go of attaching emotions to people’s actions. Take everything that happens as a fact – a fact which you don’t need to feel any emotion about.
Want to have the perfect life? Let go.
Let go of your mental boundaries and emotional attachments. Life already is perfect. It is us who are complicating it. Just let go, and watch everything unfold. Let things that need to happen, happen. They will happen either way, anyway.
Trust yourself, and your life, and go with the flow. Only then will you be freed from the frustrations of life.
Only then will you see the real perfection in life.