This one is for all those who keep pushing themselves to stay strong – even pushing to a point where it might be just a bit “too strong”…
Yes, I’m talking to you. You – the one who has been trying to remain strong in the face of adversities. You – who believes in the power of strength. You – who always had such high standards for yourself, and not necessarily for others – standards so high that they are almost impossible to fulfill…
You are proud of being tough and strong. You are proud of being independent. You are proud of holding yourself to such high standards. You don’t mind pushing yourself. You don’t mind testing your limits. You don’t mind throwing yourself in the middle of challenges and coming out of it. You want people to know that you are strong. You want people to know they can rely on you, no matter what. If there is one thing you hate, it is probably being weak, or seeming weak.
That’s why you hide your emotions. That’s why you smile when you feel like crying. That’s why you say “I’m okay!” even if you may not be. That’s why you ignore how your body and mind are really doing. “They’ll be okay,” you think to yourself, “I’ll be okay.”
And, yes, you will be… up to a point.
One day, the time will come where you will not reach that bar you have set so impossibly high for yourself. One day, you will find that it will be difficult to hold back those tears. One day, you will be frustrated to find out that, for some reason, you are unable to stand straight up, strong and unwavering, in the face of some challenge or another. One day, all those emotions, stresses and doubts you have ignored will be difficult to ignore.
And, that is perfectly normal – even the strongest metal will weaken if subjected to constant strain and stress.
I’m here to tell you that, it is okay to go easy on yourself once in a while. Even if you believe the contrary, you are human. An admirable human, at that. Nevertheless, still human. It is normal to feel weak at times. It is normal to feel overwhelmed. It is okay to feel like crying when you should be crying. Hell, it is even normal to feel like crying when you know you shouldn’t be crying!
You have pushed yourself, all this while, and that is enough for now. Take a deep breath and allow yourself this one day off. The world will be okay without you just for a day. Right now, it is time for you to take a break and recharge.
It is not a weakness to feel weak. It is not a weakness to be stressed. It is certainly not a weakness to feel like crying, or lashing out at the world, or feeling overwhelmed. It is all perfectly normal.
Go easy on yourself, and give yourself this one day off, hero. Forget about those high standards you set for yourself. It is okay if you don’t reach them today.
Give yourself the permission to be human, even if it’s just for today.
So, go and cry a few tears, punch a few things, or scream at the walls. Then, get back up and stand to fight even stronger.
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